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are you single?

I am single. I was married for 11 and half years. Had 2 kids. Wife came home in August of 2019 and asked for a divorce because she didn't love me anymore and was seeing someone else .I filed for divorce in November of 2019 and it was finalized in February 2nd of 2020. I've been in and out of relationships since my divorce was finalized. But ultimately felt that I need time alone and just don't have it in me to get with another woman right now.
 
I'm in a relationship right now, everything is going smoothly besides our problems but i think we're gonna do alright. No rushing things :3
 
Laifot said:
I'm in a relationship right now, everything is going smoothly besides our problems but i think we're gonna do alright. No rushing things :3
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That's the spirit!

Yep, been single for a while now, been going on dates and meeting women since the restrictions started coming off my state and those nearby but nothing has stuck.
 
Single, and very happy. Just living by focusing on me!
 
Phenom said:
Yep, been single for a while now, been going on dates and meeting women since the restrictions started coming off my state and those nearby but nothing has stuck.
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I've been single for 7 months now. I continued dating after I broke up with a psycho girlfriend which was 2 months after my divorce was finalized. None of the other girls I dated really held any kind of impression for me. The one's that did only wanted a one night stand and I never saw them again. So one day I was getting ready to go out on a date, some girl I met on Tinder, and she told me she was getting ready to leave and come meet me. I began to have a small panic attack. So...I told her that something came up and backed out on the date. I went home. Sat down on my couch. Relieved. Deeply relieved and I decided that I'd like to be single for a while. No women, no dating. I couldn't mentally handle it. But honestly I do miss having someone I can be with that I can rely on and won't stress me out.
 
Terminated said:
I've been single for 7 months now. I continued dating after I broke up with a psycho girlfriend which was 2 months after my divorce was finalized. None of the other girls I dated really held any kind of impression for me. The one's that did only wanted a one night stand and I never saw them again. So one day I was getting ready to go out on a date, some girl I met on Tinder, and she told me she was getting ready to leave and come meet me. I began to have a small panic attack. So...I told her that something came up and backed out on the date. I went home. Sat down on my couch. Relieved. Deeply relieved and I decided that I'd like to be single for a while. No women, no dating. I couldn't mentally handle it. But honestly I do miss having someone I can be with that I can rely on and won't stress me out.
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You should definitely make sure that you're ready to go back out and try the dating world again after the experience you've had to endure. You're no good as a partner if you're not sure of yourself.
 
Phenom said:
You should definitely make sure that you're ready to go back out and try the dating world again after the experience you've had to endure. You're no good as a partner if you're not sure of yourself.
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I agree. I'm sick of being taken advantage of. I think part of this is a me problem because I keep picking bad women. I'm going to stay single for as long as it takes until I'm ready again. I won't know until that day comes. But when it does, I won't make the same mistakes I made that landed me in bad relationships where I had to go through hell or high water to get out of it. For one, one mistake I fixed was not letting them move in. The down side to that is the relationship suffered so they must not have been the right person. Two, I've automatically ended relationships when they asked for a joint bank account. I'm not interested in sharing my hard earnings no matter how many times we sleep together.
 
Yeah, just take your time man and gradually get back out there. You could always just do 'I'm only looking for fun' and just keep it casual and your own terms.
 
Phenom said:
Yeah, just take your time man and gradually get back out there. You could always just do 'I'm only looking for fun' and just keep it casual and your own terms.
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I see what you mean. But I've already kept things on my terms since my last break up. I could do that but I'm not going to. I've had more one night stands since my divorce than I ever wanted. I'll never ever let a woman be in control of me or my finances ever again. I'm going to be 40 in 6 years and my ex wife left me penniless without a home to own. With all the money I earned, I could have a house mortgage by now. But no, I made some bad decisions and now I'm paying for it every day. Every woman I've been with has only cared about what I can do for them or what I can buy them. I'm done.
 
Terminated said:
I see what you mean. But I've already kept things on my terms since my last break up. I could do that but I'm not going to. I've had more one night stands since my divorce than I ever wanted. I'll never ever let a woman be in control of me or my finances ever again. I'm going to be 40 in 6 years and my ex wife left me penniless without a home to own. With all the money I earned, I could have a house mortgage by now. But no, I made some bad decisions and now I'm paying for it every day. Every woman I've been with has only cared about what I can do for them or what I can buy them. I'm done.
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You should definitely listen to Better Bachelor then, you and the host would have a lot in common. I don't blame you for not wanting to engage in relationships with women.

How often do you play your Xbox?
 
Phenom said:
You should definitely listen to Better Bachelor then, you and the host would have a lot in common. I don't blame you for not wanting to engage in relationships with women.
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Thank you. I imagine we probably do. Mainly when I'm asked why I'm still single, I just say that "I've got nothing left to give." I don't have the energy to mess with anymore of these women. A lot of them like to play games and I'm burned out on mind games. It's not funny anymore. I know when they're playing a game, I know when I'm being gas lighted, I know an excuse when I hear one, after awhile you just catch on. They all say the same things after a while. Like they're NPC's from a video game, when I say that I mean, they don't say the usual bs word for word. They all word it differently but once you get enough experience. Eventually, you can tell whether you're getting played or not and boy do I hate the unpredictable ones. Not to mention women cost a lot of money and time. Dates are a dime a dozen.
 
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Well, there's articles out now that say that the promiscuous women are having problems dating or getting actual relationships when they've had their fun. Not to mention the increased risk of STIs and the like. It's not like it used to be where a girl might have maybe 7-14 partners by the time she met someone she would marry, now there's those who have up to 100 or more partners. There's guys who are 10s on the attractive scale who will sleep down to a 5 and will inflate that girl's idea of what she thinks she's worthy of and deserves (not saying that she isn't but realistically, come on)
 
Demon_skeith said:
@Terminated but how strong were your shared interests?
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When we first got together, the honeymoon phase, it seemed my ex wife wanted to do everything I was doing. Our families hated each other. Her mom and sister hated me so much that they boycotted the wedding and didn't show up. The funny thing is, I never said anything or did anything to them for them to make that decision. It was a case of them never giving me a chance. They'd just formed this imaginary idea that I was this big piece of shit that they hated. After the divorce I burned my bridge with both of them. None of us talk.

Demon_skeith said:
Like seeing movies or playing games and the such?
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She loved movies and tv shows and we'd binge watch movies from Movie Gallery. However, she hated video games, so that was something I did on my own. She smoked cigarettes like a chimney. Back than however we had no problems finding anything to do together.

Demon_skeith said:
Just something you both enjoyed doing often, or did you have none at all?
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After we had kids, she lost a lot of interest in doing anything with me at all. She put on a lot of weight. She blamed me for it. Sure, we didn't always get along. But she claimed she gained weight because I was controlling.

Towards the end she went through a some sort of crisis. She then lost 180 lbs and begged me to help get this weight loss surgery. So she went to Mexico and got it. They clipped her stomach in half.

Then after she got better, she changed. Before She had always liked to go out late nights driving around on dirt roads, drinking whiskey, and smoking cigarettes and hanging out with friends. This got way way worse. I'd come home from work, she'd leave me with the kids and she'd be gone for days.
 
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Terminated said:
When we first got together, the honeymoon phase, it seemed my ex wife wanted to do everything I was doing. Our families hated each other. Her mom and sister hated me so much that they boycotted the wedding and didn't show up. The funny thing is, I never said anything or did anything to them for them to make that decision. It was a case of them never giving me a chance. They'd just formed this imaginary idea that I was this big piece of shit that they hated. After the divorce I burned my bridge with both of them. None of us talk.



She loved movies and tv shows and we'd binge watch movies from Movie Gallery. However, she hated video games, so that was something I did on my own. She smoked cigarettes like a chimney. Back than however we had no problems finding anything to do together.



After we had kids, she lost a lot of interest in doing anything with me at all. She put on a lot of weight. She blamed me for it. Sure, we didn't always get along. But she claimed she gained weight because I was controlling.

Towards the end she went through a some sort of crisis. She then lost 180 lbs and begged me to help get this weight loss surgery. So she went to Mexico and got it. They clipped her stomach in half.

Then after she got better, she changed. Before She had always liked to go out late nights driving around on dirt roads, drinking whiskey, and smoking cigarettes and hanging out with friends. This got way way worse. I'd come home from work, she'd leave me with the kids and she'd be gone for days.
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I've heard this happens a lot lately with married women. They get bored of their spouses and get flirted with by someone who is higher on the attraction scale. I can't believe she would disappear for days though. Makes you wonder what exactly she was doing and where she was staying and who with. I could imagine that the stress from that alone would be more than a lot of people could bear.
 
Phenom said:
I've heard this happens a lot lately with married women. They get bored of their spouses and get flirted with by someone who is higher on the attraction scale. I can't believe she would disappear for days though. Makes you wonder what exactly she was doing and where she was staying and who with. I could imagine that the stress from that alone would be more than a lot of people could bear.
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She's admitted to sleeping with other people. I was in shock when she came home and asked for a divorce. She's threatened divorce before during our fights and then taken it back. Bbut I never thought this was final. I tried to fix it in every way I could think of.

Eventually it was me that went to file for divorce because things were getting worse and worse. Sure, out of old feelings I missed my ex wife and was eventually able to easily forgive her after breaking up with a psycho that made my life hard for several weeks. I basically went out and got with someone 100X worse.
 
Demon_skeith said:
still on good terms with the kids?
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She's still on good terms with the kids. I have them full time. Honestly I thought they'd be living with her after the divorce seeing as she hated my parenting and her family acted like I was abusive. Evidently not.
 
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