Speaking out of anger?

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Have you ever said things you didn't mean to your significant other when you were frustrated or upset in the relationship?
 
No. If it got to the point I was angry or upset, I would remove myself and go calm down. Once hurtful words come out of your mouth, there's no taking them back.
 
I've said things when I was angry that I have come to really, really regret. I didn't mean what I said because when I'm angry it's hard to think straight. So I'm just dropping it all on them. But I didn't mean what I said and it's hard to convince the person that what I said was not true. So often times I think I have a problem before when I blow up. But it really just makes it so much worse because now I have that mess to look forward to.
 
Oh I've definitely told my spouse things out of anger. Although what I typically say aren't untrue I definitely recognize that some things can be delivered in a different manner. It's been a learning curve but we both have made significant progress when it comes to communication. (Still have a ways to go though!) It's hard to remain objective when you're angry so it's best to process those emotions by taking a walk or just doing something to cool off before addressing any issues.
 
I am very careful about the things that I say when I am angry. I understand that the human mind easily remembers words than even actions. I can shout at her if I am angry but I would not cross the line with words.
 
I actually told him that meeting him was the greatest mistake of my life. I had to apologize and it took quite a long while and effort for him to forgive me.
 
As it stands, I always keep mute when I am very angry. I don't know how I developed that but it has really worked well for me. I have a ferocious tongue naturally and unleashing it on you out of anger is something that no one should wish for. So I just keep quiet regardless of how angry I might be.
 
Yes, I've said things in the past I didn't mean, but that was mostly when we were younger. We still get mad, but we're better in how we react and respond to each other now that we've been married 34 years.
 
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