Do You Forgive?
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Yes, with time. Only those I want back in my personal circle. Those I don't, I usually give the short end of the stick and wish them on their merry way. It takes a lot to earn my trust, not much to lost it and then there's very rarely a chance to get back into it.
Yas,But it's not that easy
Yes, because when people hurt you it is usually out of their own hurt. It's not really about you at all. They can only give what is inside of them. However, YOU end up carrying the pain of THEIR dysfunction!
The way they treated you tends to color your view of yourself. When we are treated poorly, for example a boyfriend or girlfriend breaks up with us, we can spend years believing we aren't good enough to be loved based on how we were treated. But the way we were treated had nothing to do with us or our value. It had everything to do with the other person acting out of the pain inside of them.
It's crazy to live our lives carrying around the pain, the bitterness, or low-self esteem based on what other people have done. It limits your potential because you believe you are less than you really are.
Forgive them so you don't have to carry their problems around as your own anymore. Be free to live your best possible life without the burden of other people's issues.
The way they treated you tends to color your view of yourself. When we are treated poorly, for example a boyfriend or girlfriend breaks up with us, we can spend years believing we aren't good enough to be loved based on how we were treated. But the way we were treated had nothing to do with us or our value. It had everything to do with the other person acting out of the pain inside of them.
It's crazy to live our lives carrying around the pain, the bitterness, or low-self esteem based on what other people have done. It limits your potential because you believe you are less than you really are.
Forgive them so you don't have to carry their problems around as your own anymore. Be free to live your best possible life without the burden of other people's issues.
I forgive everyone if 1) there are definitive signs that it will never happen again and 2) the action didn't hurt too much.
This is very accurate in my case. Forgiving others is healing yourself, not because they deserve it but for your own good.
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Yes.
I have forgiven bullies from school. I believe that people can change. We do dumb things when we are younger.
Although there is some things that are unforgivable obviously. I don't stay petty over things I would deem to be pretty minor.
I have forgiven bullies from school. I believe that people can change. We do dumb things when we are younger.
Although there is some things that are unforgivable obviously. I don't stay petty over things I would deem to be pretty minor.
Yes, but it takes time. I've been hurt a lot in my past. It's hard to forgive especially those who don't even own up to their mistakes. Forgiveness is for us to heal.
Depends how bad it is, sometimes I would, otherwise no.
I can forgive easily, but I cannot forget easily.
That is the problem with me as I easily forget and move on.
I forgive, but I still put up healthy boundaries. I don't let people treat me like dirt repeatedly, because they don't get that right.
