Should people be able to use pronouns of "they"/"them"?

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I'm asking because I'm trying to grasp my head around it. Usually, when you use those words you refer to a group of people but now people are trying to use those because they don't identify as "girl" or "boy"... even if they have that genitalia.

Personally, I think that regardless of what you think about your body, you are either a girl or a boy depending on your genitalia, therefore you use the gender of your genitalia. If you happen to have both, then you go by what is down below the belt. I know this is not the popular opinion. This is just how I am.
 
DudeThatsErin said:
I'm asking because I'm trying to grasp my head around it. Usually, when you use those words you refer to a group of people but now people are trying to use those because they don't identify as "girl" or "boy"... even if they have that genitalia.

Personally, I think that regardless of what you think about your body, you are either a girl or a boy depending on your genitalia, therefore you use the gender of your genitalia. If you happen to have both, then you go by what is down below the belt. I know this is not the popular opinion. This is just how I am.
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Just for clarification sex is your biological 'down there'. Gender is how you feel mentally. I. E. You can have male genitalia but think like a female and vice versa; and a bit of both (which I am - mentally anyway).

As a non binary identifying person, I don't particularly care what people refer to me as, sex wise. They're just words to me. You can call me he/she/they/them/it/god.... I honestly don't care.

I know others are more bothered though. However unless they explicitly ask you to do it, I do not see why anyone should say desired sex/gender identifying pronouns or lack of sex/gender identified pronouns automatically.

If I see someone who outwardly appears as a certain sex of course I'm going to refer to them as a he or she. It's automatic for most people. If it upsets someone I guess I will apologise and try to accommodate them but that's as far as I'll go. I won't change my language just on the off chance a person I am speaking of identifies as a certain gender/doesn't identify as any gender.
 
Demon_skeith said:
Sorry, if I see a female I'm going to say she. I get it people want to be viewed as other genders, but unless they take the steps to look as such, they simply have to live with what they look like.
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You wouldn't happen to be referring to the 'she' who went on a rampage in a Gamestop because for all intents and purposes 'she' looked like a six foot something, clearly masculine male with only earrings and their hair grown out.

I'm going to refer to you as what you appear like biologically. Now I know this may cause issues with some because there are androgynous people or people who appear partly male and partly female in appearance; of indeterminate sex. This would be one of the times where I more than likely would say the wrong gender and apologize when corrected.
 
I say They / Them because I do not want someone blowing up at me. If I call someone a She and She does not identify that way, and it is my first time speaking to Her, how would I know she prefers to be called something else? I've been blown up @ like this before.........
 
I say they or them all the time if I'm not sure so if they don't care, go nuts.
 
Confusing? Slightly but if they mention it to me, I will happily try my best to remember that for next time. It's not a huge thing and it doesn't negatively affect me, so I have no problems with it
 
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